Meet Jasmin Terrany, our June Mega-Manifestor! Author of “Extraordinary Mommy,” Columbia University trained psychotherapist, who invented Life Therapy™(a revolutionary method combines Psychotherapy & Coaching + Mindfulness & Meditation), published author, public speaker, and most importantly...a MoMa! We are so proud to feature this extraordinary woman, entrepreneur, and manifestor!
1. What are some of your daily rituals to
keep yourself in manifesting and receiving mode?
Before I had kids I had a consistent daily meditation practice at least 45 minutes a day. Unfortunately since I’ve had kids it’s been much less consistent and it’s more like 15 minutes. I’m working to get it back up.
I often find myself jumping into work mode without planning out exactly what I want to get done, this often leads me down a path that I find to be less productive. So now I try to set a timer and advance for what it is that I want to work on, and for how long, before I jump in. I section at all the different things that I need to do, and plan them into my schedule accordingly. I tried to allocate time to work on my business, not just in my business.
Lastly, I’ve been attending conferences that help me realign and feel inspired. I find it really beneficial to be around like-minded people to help ignite and keep my energy flowing in the direction I’m going.
2. Who has inspired you most to go for your dreams/goals?
My future me. I did a visualization of my 85 year old self sitting in a rocking chair thinking about what she would regret if I didn't do it - it was facing my fear of speaking - having the courage to share the story of my mothers life: lived, loved and lost, as I follow in her footsteps on my own path to being an Extraordinary Mommy to my own children.
3. What is your earliest memory of the power of manifesting working for you?
My mom gave me the book "Many Lives, Many Masters" at the age of 10, since then I was particular tuned in to the "bigger picture."
A few years back, I was doing some sort of reflection about the type of person I want to to be in the world, and I referenced Marianne Williamson. I realized that although I didn’t really know her, or follow any of her work, I had an inherent trust and her due her quote that Nelson Mandela used, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.” Soon after this reflection I received a random email from a stranger asking me if I wanted to be a co-author in a book with her (which I did)! Ironically it was the “Adventures and Manifesting” book series, and the title of this edition was “Love and Oneness."
4. What were the affirmations you used and books you read to help turn your dreams of owning your own business into a reality?
"I only want clients who are ready, willing and able." When I first started my practice I would accommodate any potential client, even if it was at a cost to me, because I felt needy for clients. When I started saying this mantra, I took my power back and realized that not everyone is a perfect fit for me, and that is better for the clients and me!
5. What do you do to avoid negative thoughts and fears when it comes to manifesting?
I don't avoid negative thoughts and fears, I try to create a loving relationship with them, take care of them and love them. I remind them that they aren't in charge, as I realign with my deeper truth, trusting that everything works out exactly as it is supposed to.
6. What is the biggest gift you’ve received through the power of manifesting?
Having two, perfect peaceful home water births
The birth of my daughter on the anniversary of my mother's death
7. Tell us about your upcoming book, “Extraordinary Mommy: A Loving Guide to Mastering Life's Most Important Job” - the baby shower gift that will last a lifetime!
The love for our children is the deepest most profound experience we will ever know. It is beyond us, it comes through us, it inspires us and it terrifies us. We are destined to be these children's mother - we are their teachers and they are ours. We are embarking on the most enriching, exhausting, loving, painful, empowering journey of our lifetime. The better equipped we are to take this journey, the more we will see the sights, reach the peaks, and feel the joys. However, if we don't plan our path, we may miss out on some of the highlights.
When it's easy, nothing is better. Yet, can we be more prepared for when it's not?
Here's the story of how this book came to be...
I grew up in a home that was far from ordinary. My friends lovingly called it “Willy Wonka’s Factory.”
The mailbox was a big pink heart, purple trim lined the outside of the house, and every post on the walkway to the front door, along with every cabinet in the kitchen, boasted a different pastel color. There was a red, illuminated “love” sign accompanied by hot pink leather couches and wall hangings full of hearts and ice cream sundaes. My childhood home gushed with delicious love. At the time, I thought it was ordinary. Weren't all homes overflowing with smiles and hugs?
My home was the manifestation of my mom's dedication to live from love. She simply overflowed with the most profound warmth, joy, depth and warmth imaginable. She was a best friend, the ultimate role model, and a true parenting guru. In over a decade of private practice, a lifetime of relationships, and almost 60 countries of world travel, never have I even heard of another mother who parented with such intention, dedication, clarity, wisdom, and fun. Yet, as grateful as I was for this parenting, and this childhood, I also had a underlying feeling of unworthiness, for I knew that I didn’t do anything to earn this kind of love.
Then, with no warning, no preparation, one sunny afternoon, she simply disappeared from this world. She was driving to meet me for lunch, and never arrived. Age 64, mile marker 64. Gone.
As I sat all alone, trying to digest this unfathomable news. I stared out the window as the sunlight kissed the sparkling ocean waves. I couldn’t believe the peace I felt, amidst the heart-wrenching pain in my soul. She was there with me. Her loving wisdom was so deeply embedded in my essence that I couldn’t tell if it was her voice or my own.
"It's okay. You are okay. Everything will be okay." I could feel her speak through my soul as tears ran down my cheeks.
I felt it. I knew it. It was my turn. I was the mother now.
After the most devastating year of my life, it all began to make sense. On the first anniversary of my mother’s passing, I naturally gave birth to my own daughter. The hair-raising synchronicity of this moment not only brought new physical life into the world but channeled the content of my most treasured work of art, the book: “Extraordinary Mommy: A Loving Guide Mastering Life’s Most Important Job.”
While writing this book I realized that not only did I deserve the parenting I received, but all children do. We are our children's first love. Our voice becomes the voice in their head. Nothing is more powerful than a mother's love, yet the challenges of life can keep us from leading with this love. How we love them will determine who they become.
Since I no longer have my mother to guide me, I wanted to bottle up the extraordinary parenting I experienced from her. I summarized the 10 core parenting practices I so gratefully received, so that we have core principles to return to when going through the ebbs and flows of life. I aspire to be the extraordinary mommy my children deserve, and my hope is that this book will provide comfort and guidance to others on this path as well.
8. Do you have any meditation techniques you’d like to share with our readers?
I just recorded some guided meditations that will be available on my website www.JasminBalance.com, if you add your email address, you'll be notified when they are available.
9. Being a business woman and mother is quite the challenge! What are some of the ways you balance work and family life without losing yourself in the process?
If you had a bucket and wanted to fill it with the most sand, pebbles, and rocks possible, you would put the rocks in first, then pebbles, and then the sand. If you filled the bucket first with sand, there would be less room for everything else.
My time is my bucket and my priorities are my rocks; if I don’t put them in first, I won’t have time for them.
10. Are there any self-care techniques that you’d like to share with our MoMas?
I wrote another book on that topic!
Extraordinary You: Master Your Feelings, Master Your Life
The Four Essential Exercises that Build Emotional Resilience & Enduring Confidence
It's coming out after Extraordinary Mommy....add your email to my website to get the notice on that one as well!
www.JasminBalance.com